When guys have an attractive girl they want to get with, they often miss the obvious signs she isn’t feeling you.
You can save yourself a lot of hassle and embarrassment by being able to spot the early signs she doesn’t like you.
This is an important step in your dating life because you can bypass simping, being taken advantage of, or getting played.
Knowing what to look for makes it so much easier to connect with girls who will give you the time of day and appreciate what you bring to the table.
Signs she doesn’t like you or wants you to be just her friend
A quick disclaimer, she likely doesn’t like you, and the friend talk is because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Just know that if she tells you she only wants to be friends, it’s likely the truth, and you should move on.
Here are the signs to look out for:
She cancels plans without rescheduling
This is one of the more obvious red flags you shouldn’t ignore.
Yes, things come up, but if a girl likes you, she will want to spend time with you.
She won’t cancel plans last minute without having a solid reason or trying to reschedule.
When a girl likes you, she will want to make time for you no matter what else is going on in her life.
When she’s excited about spending time with you, canceling plans is not something she will do lightly.
She will let you know that she really wants to see you and will put in the effort to make sure you know she wants to see you.
She sends you one-word texts
When a girl is feeling you, she will want to have a conversation with you.
One-word answers in texts are not only lazy but also a sign that she’s not interested in engaging with you.
If she’s sending you one-word responses or just “k”s, it’s a strong sign that she isn’t that into you.
Maybe you think she’s shy or not a big texter, but if she liked you, she would at least want to hold a decent conversation with you.
Stop always giving her the benefit of the doubt.
You know how it is when you like someone and if she is not giving off those vibes, then believe that’s how she feels and keep it moving.
She doesn’t put in any effort
She never texts you first or makes plans to see you.
You’re always the one initiating contact and trying to make plans.
If she liked you, she would be more than happy to put in the effort to see you and make plans with you.
You wouldn’t always need to be the one putting in all the effort.
When a girl is interested in you, she wants to make sure you know and feel it.
You should never feel like you’re the only one trying to make things happen.
She always seems uninterested
You have been putting in all the effort and finally, get her to commit to a first or second date.
The entire time she seems to be paying attention to everything but you.
Being friendlier to the waiter than she is to you or spending more time on her phone than talking to you are pretty strong signs that she doesn’t like you.
It’s one thing if she’s a little shy, but if she can’t even look you in the eye, seems to avoid physical contact, or hold a conversation with you, then it’s not worth your time.
Her being hot is not enough, and you’ll likely end up wasting your time.
Make sure she shows you the good qualities you want in a relationship.
She will not touch you
This is one of those stand-out body language signs a girl is into you when she breaks the touch barrier.
It could be as simple as a pat on the arm when you make her laugh or a gentle touch on your thigh when she’s flirting with you.
If she never touches you, it’s a sign that she isn’t interested in being more than friends.
Breaking the touch barrier is an important step in flirting and a way to gauge if someone is interested in you.
If she never touches you, it’s likely because she doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea or lead you on.
If a girl has any hint of romantic feelings for you, she will definitely not avoid contact and try to touch you as often as she can.
She doesn’t make eye contact
If there is any level of romantic feelings or sexual tension, eye contact is one of the most intimate things you can do.
When we like someone, we want to be looking at them as much as possible to take in every detail and signal that we are interested.
It’s not a good sign if a girl avoids eye contact with you or always seems to be looking around the room when you’re talking.
Even a shy girl cannot keep her eyes off you if there is any real interest level.
She may look away because holding eye contact may be uncomfortable. Still, she’ll talk and steal glances at you throughout the conversation.
There are things that are just not done even when playing hard to get, and this is one of them.
She never flirts with you
Flirting is a classic sign that someone is interested in you.
It’s how we signal our interest and let the other person know we want to take things to the next level.
A girl who never flirts with you is probably not interested.
She may act friendly, but if she’s not flirting or flirting back, it’s a safe bet that she’s just not that into you.
Flirting can be subtle or obvious, but if she’s not doing it at all, then it’s a pretty good sign that she doesn’t want to take things any further.
Most guys are mistaken to think most of the flirting is up to them.
In reality, many women will flirt with you if the moment is right.
She talks about other guys
This is a massive red flag that she doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend.
Suppose she constantly talks about other guys or brings them up in conversation. In that case, it’s a good sign she doesn’t like you as anything more.
A girl who likes you will want to make sure you know that you’re the only one she’s interested in.
She may mention other guys, but it will be in a way that makes it clear she’s not interested in them.
For example, she might bring up a guy who keeps asking her out no matter how many times he asks.
All while being on a date with you.
It’s a classic sign she is showing you that she is into you because you are actually hanging out.
She introduces you as just a friend
Let’s say you run into her at an event with her friends.
How she introduces you can be a big sign of how she sees you.
If she just says, “This is my friend, John,” in a bland, just someone I know kind of way, then it’s likely because that’s all she sees you as.
You’ll know the difference when she introduces you as a “friend” because there are no labels, but she is all over you, flirting, touching, and smiling.
But this is not what I’m referring to here.
If she is treating you in a way friends act, then believe her.
Don’t try to change her mind or accept the friend zone with the hopes of winning her over later.
Either you decide to treat her in the same way, as a friend only, or move on if you want something more.
There are other women out there. So don’t be the nice guy that is only around with the hopes that things will change one day.
She doesn’t dress up for you
If she doesn’t put in the work to look good, smell good, and dress up for you when she knows you’ll be around, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you.
Now, I’m not saying she must wear a ball gown whenever she sees you.
If you know she goes out of her way to look nice for other guys or always looks great when she’s not expecting to see you.
It’s a sign that you’re not on her mind the way she is on yours.
When they know their crush is coming, I have seen women run to the bathroom to fix their makeup and hair.
This is one of those clear signs a girl doesn’t like you or has very low interest, and you should move on.
She always includes other people
This is one of those common signs she doesn’t like you that way and just wants to be friends.
You have been put in the friend zone if they’re always inviting other people along when you hang out, or they make excuses not to be alone with you.
If a woman wants to get close to you, she will not invite other women around, that could steal your attention.
She will want to spend time with you one-on-one so she can have your full attention.
Most men miss this since they are just glad to be in her company, no matter who else is there.
But she is subtly telling you that she wants nothing more and would do this if she was attracted to you in that way.
She takes forever or doesn’t text back
If you know a girl is always on her phone but takes forever to text you back, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you.
Girls who want to talk to the guy they like will not make him wait for hours on end.
She will respond as soon as possible because she is excited to hear from you and keep the conversation going.
This is one of those signs a girl uses when she wants to string you along but is not interested in anything more.
Yes, she has her own life and things going on. Still, if you know she is constantly on her phone and taking forever to text back, she is likely using you for attention or validation.
Or she is giving the other guy priority over you and is keeping you around as a backup.
Don’t accept this and find a woman that gives you priority.
She doesn’t care about you personally
If a woman is constantly changing the subject when you talk about yourself, or she seems uninterested in your life, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you.
Now, some people are just naturally self-centered and only care about themselves.
You should accept either way and move on if you want someone that cares about you.
But most women, if they are interested in the guy, want to know more about him.
She will ask follow-up questions, seem genuinely interested, and remember things you have told her.
If she doesn’t care about you or your life, it’s a sign she is not worth your time.
She leads you on
This is one of those signs a girl doesn’t like you but uses you for attention.
For example, she reaches out to you to take her on a date, but the language she uses always has this undertone of you gotta do this, and maybe you’ll get that.
It’s a form of manipulation and mind games.
Don’t fall for it. If she is interested in you, she will not play these games.
She would simply state what she wants and let you make the decision.
Women who lead men on are usually selfish and only care about themselves.
Don’t be one of those guys. Instead, find a genuine woman you can see yourself in a relationship with.
She always has excuses
It seems like every time you ask her to hang out, she’s either busy or already has plans.
Of course, everyone is busy, but if she’s constantly making excuses not to see you, it might be because she doesn’t want to.
She’s not interested in you and would rather do something else or be with someone else.
Don’t be that guy that she uses as a backup plan. Instead, find a woman that actually wants to spend time with you.
Or you always get the “Just seeing this” text.
You know the one. You text her, and she takes forever to respond, and you get a generic answer like “just seeing this.”
She’s not interested in you and is only responding because she feels like she has to.
Or, even worse, she’s doing it to string you along.
Don’t be that guy.
She always has stand-offish body language
So much of our communication is non-verbal.
When you know what to look for, you can get answers to your questions without ever having to ask them.
One of those signs a girl uses when she doesn’t like you but is using you for attention is stand-offish body language.
She will keep her distance, not want to be close to you, and avoid any physical contact.
She never faces you, crosses her arms, or has a closed-off posture.
All of these are signs she is not interested in you and is only trying to be polite.
Don’t waste your time on someone like that.
Find a woman that actually wants to be around you.
She always looks bored
A crystal clear sign a girl doesn’t like you if she always looks bored when she’s around you.
It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. She always has this look on her face like she would rather be somewhere else.
Of course, there are times when we all feel that way, but if it’s constantly, then it’s a sign she’s not interested.
If she’s not trying to have fun or laugh at your jokes and flirts, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you.
And why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you?
So, if you’re constantly seeing this look on her face, it might be time to move on.
She never has anything nice to say about you
If you constantly hear her say negative things about you, it’s one of those strong signs that a girl doesn’t like you.
And why would you want to be in the presence of someone that doesn’t respect you?
Find a woman that sees the good in you and is proud to be with you.
On the flip side, she may never say anything wrong, but she doesn’t say anything nice either.
If she never gives you a genuine compliment or tries to make you feel good about yourself, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you.
A girl will tell you what she likes about you because she wants you to know without a doubt that she likes you.
So, if she never says anything nice, it’s one of those signs that she doesn’t see you as boyfriend material.
She is always on her phone
We are all attached to our phones in some way, but when we are in the presence of someone we like, we want to give them our undivided attention.
If she’s always on her phone when she’s around you, it’s a red flag that can be overlooked since it’s the norm to always be on your phone.
There has to be a balance, which you decide, but it needs to be decided.
In the early stages of a relationship, it should be so new and exciting that she practically forgets about her phone.
As time goes on, it’s normal for her to be on it more, but if she’s always on it and never really engaging with you, it’s not a good look.
What to do if a girl doesn’t like you?
If a girl doesn’t like you, you should immediately move on. You shouldn’t waste time trying to win over someone who isn’t interested.
Instead, find a girl that is attracted to you and wants to be with you.
With that said, here are a few things you should do once you realize she is not the one:
Pull away from her
If you are putting in all the effort, you should pull away.
This will make her realize that she might lose you and have to step up her game.
Sometimes you have to pull away and make yourself unavailable for someone to realize what it’s like not to have you.
She will start to see the value in you, and maybe she will start showing some interest.
But if she doesn’t, it’s time to move on because she clearly isn’t interested in you.
As men, we need to get past this scarcity mindset that there are a limited number of good women out there for us.
Don’t take it personally
If a girl doesn’t like you, don’t take it personally.
There could be any number of reasons why she doesn’t like you.
It’s not always because you did something wrong.
She might just not be attracted to you, or she might still be in love with her ex.
Either way, it’s not worth getting upset about.
Just move on and find someone that does want to be with you.
Focus on your purpose
As men, we need a purpose in life; if you don’t have one, work on finding one.
Your purpose should be something that drives you and motivates you.
When you have a purpose, it will be easier to move on from a girl that doesn’t like you because you will have something else to focus on.
A purpose gives your life meaning and makes it easier to get through tough times.
So, if you’re wondering what to do if a girl doesn’t like you, the answer is simple: focus on your purpose.
Start getting other girl’s number
One of the best ways to avoid getting so caught up on one girl is to have other girls you are talking to.
There is no reason to stop talking to other girls just because you are trying to woo one.
In fact, you should be talking to as many girls as possible.
The more girls you talk to, the less invested you will be in any one girl.
And if one girl doesn’t like you, it won’t matter as much because you will have other girls to talk to.
You should keep your options open until you have confirmed that she likes you and you are headed into relationship status.
Work on becoming a better man
Not because of her but because the better you become as a man, the better off you will be.
A girl not liking you is not the end of the world, but it can be a turning point to better yourself.
Use it as motivation to work on becoming the best version of yourself.
I recommend you start with finding daily affirmations for men that will help you achieve the mindset needed to accomplish your goal.
Knowing that you are headed toward things bigger than a girl that won’t text you back will help you not sweat the little stuff.
Find hobbies that keep you busy
As guys, we can get so caught up in the daily routine that we don’t find things to do because it’s fun.
We need to find hobbies that we love and make time for them.
This could be anything from playing sports to hiking to painting.
This will also make your life more interesting, so when you find a girl who is into you, you’ll have stories and experiences to share.
And maybe she is into some of the same things, which would make for some great date ideas.
Get out there and start exploring new things. You never know what you might find that you love.
Get a dating coach
As guys were can sometimes feel like getting professional help to improve our dating life is admitting defeat.
But that could not be further from the truth.
Getting help from a dating coach who knows what they are doing can be one of the best decisions you ever make.
Your coach will help you learn how to attract the right kind of girl for you and how to get over your shyness and fear of rejection.
If you are serious about wanting to find love, then a dating coach is an excellent investment.
