13 Undeniable Traits You Are A Loser Or Dating One

Losers may give up on their dreams and goals and accept that they will never achieve anything great. Fortunately, it's absolutely possible to overcome the traits of being a loser.
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Many losers have a ton of potential but lack the motivation to get up and do something with their lives.

They may talk a good game or have all the right ideas, but they never follow through.

This can be frustrating for those around them, especially if they are in a relationship with them.

If you’re dating a loser, chances are they will drain you emotionally and financially.

It’s important to spot the signs that you are a loser or dating a loser so you can take the necessary steps to make changes or protect yourself.

loser laying around wasting time at home

How do I know if I am a loser?

It’s sometimes hard to recognize and can be a tough pill to swallow.

This is not to talk bad about someone who is a loser but to empower them to recognize and make changes.

If any of these resonate with you, it’s time for a change:

It’s always someone else’s fault

You’re most likely a loser if you feel it’s always someone else’s fault for your problems.

You need to take responsibility for your life and stop making excuses.

Sometimes it can feel like we don’t have control over our own life.

We have more control than we can recognize because it may be overshadowed by the madness that may be happening around us.

The first step is to accept that you are in control and make a change.

Stop being reactive and start being proactive.

False confidence

If you always have to big up yourself and put others down, it’s a sign of low self-esteem and a loser.

This is often just a facade to try and make yourself feel better and give you some sense of importance.

It’s okay to be confident, but there is a difference between confidence and arrogance.

True confidence comes from within and is not based on putting others down or constantly needing to throw out your accomplishments.

If you constantly need to one-up someone, take a step back and reassess your life.

You may need to build up your self-esteem in other areas outside of just talking.

Your life has no direction

You’re likely a loser if you wake up daily with no drive or ambition.

A big part of life is having a sense of purpose.

A loser goes wherever the wind blows.

It doesn’t have to be anything significant, but something that gets you out of bed in the morning.

If you are still trying to figure out what you want to do with your life, it’s time to start exploring.

Talk to people who have similar interests, read books, find new hobbies and develop new skills.

A hobby may not directly give you purpose. Still, it gets you out of the house, which opens opportunities to discover new things that can help you discover your purpose.

Unwilling to listen

That need to be right is a prominent trait a real loser possesses.

If you constantly need to have the last word or be right, it shows that you’re not open to new ideas.

You may think you know everything, but you don’t.

There’s always room for growth and new experiences.

Be open to learning and growing as a person.

Hearing opposing views is always a positive if you listen.

You’ll realize that something needs to be adjusted in your thinking, which makes you better, or you will strengthen your beliefs on the topic.

No one else matters

The biggest loser is the one who cares less about the consequences of their actions and more about themselves.

If you’re constantly putting yourself first, it’s time to start thinking about others.

You may not be intentionally doing this, but if you never think about how your actions will affect others, it comes across as selfish.

The world does not revolve around you, so start taking notice and give respect to the friends, family, and co-workers that surround you.

You quit every time it gets hard

Whether it’s a job or relationship, you’re likely a loser if you constantly quit when it gets hard.

There will be challenges and obstacles in life, but how you face them defines you as a person.

Only losers give up when things don’t go their way, or they don’t get what they want.

It takes strength and courage to push through tough times.

There are some things you should absolutely move on from but make sure you see the difference.

You are always negative

Successful people in business and life can see the bright side even when things are tough.

Positivity is a trait that helps people succeed.

A loser displays very little positivity.

If you constantly complain or are negative, it’s time to change your mindset.

This doesn’t mean you have to be always happy, but try to find the silver lining in every situation.

Start living a more positive lifestyle by practicing gratitude, setting goals, and using positive affirmations.

You have nothing nice to say about others

A loser may often feel the need to point out other people’s flaws or weaknesses.

We all have flaws, so why dwell on someone else’s?

A confident person is not afraid to compliment others.

If you can’t find anything nice to say about someone, it says more about you than them.

Don’t be the loser that puts others down to make themselves feel better.

It’s not attractive and won’t get you very far in life.

You are disrespectful and unkind

If you constantly find it necessary to “put people in their place” or make others feel small, you are not a very nice person and are likely a loser.

Nobody likes a bully, so try to be more understanding and compassionate.

It’s not easy to do, but it will make you a better person – and people will respect you more.

You can get your point across without being rude or insulting.

There’s no need to be mean or insulting when trying to make a point.

You need to work on your communication skills if you can’t express yourself without resorting to name-calling or put-downs.

Being able to calmly and respectfully explain yourself is a sign of maturity.

You have a complete lack of self-awareness

You need to take a good, long look in the mirror if you can’t see your own faults and weaknesses.

A loser will avoid this at all costs.

We all have faults, but some people are oblivious to their shortcomings.

Take some time to reflect on yourself and improve upon the things you don’t like about yourself or things brought to your attention.

It’s not easy to do, but it’s worth it.

There’s no integrity

A person with integrity is honest and has strong moral principles.

If you can’t be trusted to do the right thing or tell the truth, people will have a hard time respecting you and consider you a loser.

Work on being more honest and trustworthy, and people will start to see you in a better light.

This is not to be confused with being a people pleaser.

It is as simple as being a person of your word or saying no to things that don’t align with your values.

Loser playing video games instead of going to work

You are constantly procrastinating

Most people are out here doing many things that they don’t want to do.

The ability to push through and do things even when you don’t feel like it is a valuable skill.

You will never get anything done if you are constantly putting things off or procrastinating.

It can be challenging, especially if you are a loser.

But try to make an effort to do the things you need to do in to get where you want to be.

You need that new car, but if you always call out because you don’t want to work, where will the money come from?

Focus on the discipline of getting things done instead of the feelings you may have when it’s time to get off the couch.

Everyone else around you is a loser

If you hang around others who lack ambition or are content with mediocrity, it will be hard for you to reach your full potential.

You need to surround yourself with people who have goals and aspirations.

This doesn’t mean you need to cut ties with everyone in your life who isn’t “doing anything,” but try to find a balance.

And balance in this situation is hanging around this group of losers less so you can focus on bettering yourself.

You should also try to be a good influence on them; maybe they will see that it’s not so bad to have dreams and work towards something.

Only do this through your actions, though. Let them see the change.

People who don’t have anything going on for themselves are usually pretty unhappy.

So, if you want to be happy, it’s best to distance yourself from that type of negativity.

Guy frustrated with his situation sitting on the steps in front of his house

What to do if you are a loser

You are not a born loser.

There were some things that happened along the way that made you become a loser or display a number of these loser traits.

Life can be challenging, and sometimes it seems like everything is against you.

This can make a person feel lost, hopeless, helpless, or like they hate life.

They may give up on their dreams and goals and accept that they will never achieve anything great.

If this sounds like you, then it’s time to make a change.

And it’s absolutely possible to overcome the traits of being a loser.

Here are a few things you can do to stop being a loser:

Acknowledge there’s a problem

The first step is acknowledging that there’s a problem.

You can’t change what you don’t recognize.

If you are a loser, you need to own it so you can start the process.

So take an honest look at your life and ask yourself if you’re really happy with where you are.

Be willing to make a change

The second step is being willing to actually make a change.

Without change, you will always be a loser.

This means being open to new things and letting go of some of the old things that have been holding you back.

In other words, get out of your comfort zone.

It got you to this place of feeling stuck playing it safe and not taking any risks.

Rediscover your why

Why did you start down this path in the first place?

What were you hoping to achieve?

What difference did you want to make in the world?

When you remember your original desires or create new ones, it can give you the motivation to keep going.

Start taking small steps

You don’t have to make big changes all at once.

In fact, it’s often better to take small steps that you can sustain over the long term.

You don’t need all the answers, but you must start taking action toward your goals.

Find a role model or mentor

Look for someone who has what you want and find out how they did it.

Ask them questions, read their story, or shadow them as often as possible.

You can learn a lot from someone already where you want to be.

Get rid of negative influences

We all have people in our lives who bring us down.

These are the people who are always complaining, gossiping or putting you down.

It’s time to cut them out of your life and surround yourself with positive people instead.

Make a plan

Give yourself some direction and benchmarks to measure your progress.

A plan will help you stay focused and on track.

It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it should give you a general idea of what to do and when to do it.

Focus on your goals

When things get tough, it’s easy to lose sight of your goals.

But if you keep your eye on the prize, it will be easier to push through the tough times.

Visualize yourself achieving your goals and putting all your effort into making them a reality.

Believe in yourself

This is the most critical step of all.

You have to believe that you can achieve better for yourself.

This is a new path for you, so self-doubt is normal and understandable.

But you don’t want it to hold you back from taking action and achieving success.

Going from being a loser to someone you like looking at in the mirror is important work.

So don’t be afraid to fail and deal with whatever comes your way with grace and grit.

You are not alone in this journey.


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