Wooing A Girl: 20 Ways To Grab Her Attention Fast

Some people think that to woo a girl, you have to take her out on grandiose dates or spend a lot of money on her, but that's not always the case.
Guy flirting with a girl he is wooing in a coffee shop

Wooing a girl can be the easiest, most terrifying thing you do.

It’s easy to overthink wooing a girl, but it doesn’t have to be as complicated as you make it out to be.

Sometimes the best way to woo a girl is by keeping it simple and letting your actions speak for themselves.

And other times, you must put in a little more effort to ensure she understands your intentions.

This article will discuss tips that can get you the first and second dates and beyond.

What does woo mean for dating?

Wooing a girl means trying to make her like you with the intention of dating her. You can woo a girl in a lot of different ways, but it ultimately comes down to how you make the girl feel.

A lot of wooing has to do with showing interest without being too forward, making the girl feel special and appreciated, and being a gentleman.

Some people think that to woo a girl, you have to take her out on grandiose dates or spend a lot of money on her, but that’s not always the case.

Guy wooing his crush

How to woo and get a girl interested

With any of the methods you choose below, the objective is to spend quality time with her.

That can be over text or in person.

What’s important is that you make her feel comfortable with you and let her know that you’re interested in learning more about her.

Here are some ways to woo a girl that will catch her attention:

Include her in your lifestyle

As a high-value man or soon-to-be one, you probably experience some pretty incredible things in your day-to-day life.

And what better way to woo a girl than by including her in those experiences?

Invite her to your next social gathering.

Take her out for drinks with your friends, or bring her along on your next vacation.

It’s not about the amount of money you have. It’s about the lifestyle and experiences you can share that will make her want to be around you more.

Pay for the dates

There is growing talk about whether a guy should pay for everything.

Women nowadays are capable of paying their own way.

As a guy, don’t leave this to chance and go into the date ready to pay for everything.

If she wants to pay half as you pull out your credit card, you can say, “Next time, you can buy me a coffee.”

This shows that you are assertive and confident and hints that you want to see her again.

Now if you paying will turn into a problem it’s not worth it.

Let her pay her half and keep things light and fun.

Be spontaneous

Most guys as for permission too much.

There’s nothing wrong with being spontaneous and making decisions on the fly.

If you want to woo a girl, ask her out on a date spontaneously instead of waiting days or weeks in advance.

Make it something hard for her to say no to.

If you know she likes museums, and you get the invite to an exclusive exhibit that night, don’t be afraid to ask.

The more interesting, the better.

A coffee date is not what you’re going for here.

Be there for her

A woman wants someone who makes her feel like you are a dependable guy.

If you want to woo a girl, show her that she can count on you when she needs you.

Be there for her when she’s going through a tough time or just needs someone to talk to.

Listen to her when she’s talking and offer advice and support when needed.

Start paying attention to the signs

When you spend time with a woman, you need to start paying attention to the signs she’s giving you.

Is she leaning in when you’re talking? Is she touching your arm when she laughs? These are all good signs that she’s interested in you.

On the other hand, if she’s crossing her arms or leaning away from you, she might not be as interested.

It’s hard for even timid women not to give you some obvious clues when they feel like you’re a great guy and are into you.

One of the best ways to woo a woman is to escalate when she is giving you positive signals that she likes you.

Guy making a woman laugh

Make her laugh a lot

You will win her over much faster if you can make a woman laugh.

Humor is one of the most important things when you want to woo a girl.

Be careful not to try too hard or be crude, but find ways to make her laugh, and she’ll start to see you in a positive light.

If you don’t feel like a funny guy, take her on fun dates to a comedy show or carnival where the environment is full of fun and laughter.

Those good vibes will still be associated with you because you were together.

Be a man of your word

Being reliable is a skill set that guys should hone.

It’s a skill set because it takes work to be someone others can depend on.

If you want to woo a girl, make sure you’re a man of your word.

Don’t say you’ll call her and then never follow through.

If you say you’re going to do something, make sure you do it.

If she can’t rely on you to keep your word, she’s not going to want to be around you very much.

Be accessible but not always available

You want her to feel like she can reach out to you when she needs to, but you don’t want to be too available.

If you’re constantly responding to her texts right away or dropping everything to see her.

She’s going to start taking you for granted.

Be accessible but make sure you have your own life too and that she isn’t the only thing you’re focused on.

This will make her see you as more attractive.

Let her know what you think of her

You need to do this in a way that doesn’t scream, I want to be your best friend.

You want to keep your frame and let her know you want a romantic relationship with her without saying it outright.

You want to keep it cool and not come across as needy or desperate.

Find subtle ways to randomly reach out that are relevant.

Like you see a Tik Tok video that makes you think of something that happened on your first date.

It doesn’t have to be super deep or meaningful, but it should be genuine.

A woman can spot a fake from a mile away.

Start flirting with her more

Flirting is an excellent way to let your intentions be known and block the friend zone with everything you’ve got.

It’s important to find ways to flirt with her without being creepy.

You want to keep it light and fun while making your interest clear.

Compliment her, make inside jokes, and find ways to touch her in a non-threatening way.

These things will let her know that you want something more than friendship.

Be careful not to overdo it, however, or she might start to feel uncomfortable.

Give genuine compliments

Maybe a cheesy pick-up line was enough for you to get her number.

But if you want to woo a girl and get her to like you, you’re going to have to step up your game.

Women are attracted to men who can give them genuine compliments.

And by genuine, I mean something that you actually believe.

Don’t just say things because you think it’s what she wants to hear.

She’ll be able to tell if you’re being sincere or not.

Find things about her that you genuinely appreciate and let her know.

Spend more time with her

She may be a guy’s girl and can hang with the boys, but she is not one of your male friends.

Make sure you are spending time with her in more intimate settings.

One-on-one time is vital when you’re trying to woo a girl.

It’s how you get to know each other better and find out if there’s more than just friendship between you two.

So ask her out on dates, go for walks together, or plan fun weekend outings.

Stay away from group dates or double dates at first.

You want her to be able to focus on you and only you.

Get approval from her social circle

If you want to woo a girl, get on her social circle’s good side.

Most girls will put a lot of stock into what their friends and family think of the guy she’s dating.

So if you want to woo a girl, make sure you’re making a good impression on the people who matter to her.

Be polite, be funny, and be yourself.

It’ll be a lot easier if they approve of you because you know they have people talking good about you even when you are not around.

Guy on a date with a woman while she flirts with him

Make plans with her

A confident man is an attractive man.

And one of the ways you can show her that you’re confident is by making plans with her.

Don’t just wait around for her to make all the decisions.

Be a man and take charge.

Plan out dates, activities, or even just weekend hangouts.

Take mental notes on the things she likes to do and surprise her with tickets to a show or reservations at a restaurant she’s been wanting to try.

Women love a man who can take charge and make things happen.

Be vulnerable with her

Being vulnerable doesn’t mean being weak.

It means being open and honest about your feelings and emotions.

It’s a sign of strength, not weakness.

And it’s something that women find very attractive in men.

So if you want to woo a woman, don’t be afraid to show her your vulnerable side.

Tell her about your fears, hopes, dreams, and the things that make you happy and sad.

Most men go here way too soon.

You want to save this for later stages in your relationships.

It’ll make her feel more connected to you and help her understand you better.

Be a gentleman

Even in today’s society, women still love a man who can treat them like a lady.

Old-fashioned manners are still very attractive to women.

So if you want to woo a girl, make sure you’re a gentleman.

Open doors for her, pull out her chair, hold the elevator door and let her order first at restaurants.

And don’t forget the small things, like saying please and thank you, and offering your jacket when she’s cold.

A little gentlemanly behavior goes a long way.

Many men start here but fall off when their true nature begins to show.

It’s good to incorporate this into your life and continue even after you get the girl.

Start the relationship how you want to finish.

Text her sometimes

Our mobile phone is an extension of ourselves.

We use it for everything, from keeping in touch with friends and family to getting work done.

So it’s no surprise that texting has become one of the main ways we communicate with each other.

And in the wooing phase, text messages can be a great way to stay in touch with the girl you like and keep the wooing process going.

Ensure you’re not texting her all the time, or you’ll start to seem needy and desperate.

She has to text you first sometimes. So if you already texted her twice, you should pull back and ensure she texts first next time.

A few texts here and there are acceptable, but doing too much is the first step to becoming a girl’s doormat.

Don’t be negative

No one wants to be around a Debby Downer.

People want to be around people that make them feel good and creates smiling faces around them.

And that’s especially true when you’re wooing someone.

No girl wants to date a guy who’s always complaining and has a negative outlook on life.

So, if you want to woo a girl, stay positive.

I’m not saying you put on your rose-colored glasses and act like everything is rainbows and butterflies all the time.

But, try to stay positive as much as you can.

It’ll make you more attractive and make the wooing process a lot more enjoyable for both of you.

Let her chase you

One of the most important things you can do is let girls chase you.

This is completely opposite to what girls are used to doing.

It creates a sense of mystery that women are attracted to.

It also shows you have a life outside her and that you’re not just sitting around writing love notes and waiting for her to call or text you.

And when she does reach out to you, don’t drop everything to answer her.

Wait a little while before you respond.

This will keep her on her toes and make her want you even more.

Don’t try too hard

Trying too hard is a major turnoff for women.

You come across as needy, desperate, and insecure when you try too hard.

And those are not qualities that are going to woo a girl.

So, if you want to woo a woman, ensure you don’t try too hard.

Of course, you should put some effort into it, but don’t go overboard.

Guy buying a woman he is wooing a drink

Too many guys do this and shouldn’t

In men’s quest to find meaningful relationships, they often turn women off or become called “a good friend” even though they want more.

It’s because there are some everyday things guys do that, in their heads, are a foolproof plan to woo her but do the complete opposite.

Here are some things you need to avoid when you want to woo a woman:

Thinking all girls are the same

This is a common mistake guys make.

They think they can woo any girl just because they wooed one girl.

But that’s not true.

Each girl is different, and you need to tailor your wooing strategy to fit the girl you’re interested in.

What works on one girl might not work on another.

So, it’s essential to keep this in mind when you want to get the girl.

Being needy

Neediness is a big turnoff for girls.

You constantly ask for her approval or attention when you’re needy.

This makes you look weak and insecure.

Believe in yourself and your ability to woo her.

If you need her approval all the time, she’ll get bored of you and move on.

Pressing for physical intimacy too soon

Physical intimacy is important in a relationship, but it’s a process.

Just because you’re physically attracted to her doesn’t mean you should go in for a first kiss or try to sleep with her before you get choosing signals.

You need to woo her and get to know her better before you can think about taking things to the next level.

Guys hit on her and make sexual advances all the time, so doing this at the wrong moment will make you look like every other guy.

But if you take your time and woo her the right way, she’ll be more open to physical intimacy.

Not walking away

You have to set standards for yourself.

If you are looking for a relationship and she starts not to respond or use terms like we’re best friends, it’s time to move on.

Settling will only lead to you getting hurt in the end.

It’s better to walk away and find someone who wants the same thing as you.

Not being yourself

A lot of guys try to be someone they’re not when they want to get the girl.

It’s one of the worst things guys can do.

You may get her, but she is falling for the things that are not really you.

So, what do you think will happen when she finds out who you really are?

She’ll leave even if you are a good guy because you will come across as a liar.

If you be yourself and she accepts it, you’ll have a better shot of taking things to the next level.

Putting her on a pedestal

You don’t want to put all your attention on her and act like she’s the only girl in the world.

This is the sign of a low-value man who doesn’t have options.

You want to frame it like you are adding her to the life you have, not the other way around.


Getting a girl to see you as more than a friend can be difficult if you don’t know what you’re doing.

The most important thing to remember is that each girl is different, and you need to woo her in a way that fits her.

Give yourself options and talk to more girls.

By default, you will get better at interacting and wooing women.

And lastly, be yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not, or she’ll see through it and leave.

If you follow these tips, you’ll be well on your way to wooing the girl of your dreams.


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